Striving To Be A Successful Wife
Couples can return to the state of intimacy from conflict, if, and only if, they stop hurting each other and return to meeting each other's emotional needs again.
What is intimacy?
Intimacy is closeness to each other. In an intimate state, spouses communicat... BY: Unknown {And among His signs is this: He creates for you mates out of your own kind. So that you might find contentment (sukoon) with them, and He engenders love and tenderness between you: in this, behold, there are signs (messages) indeed for people who reflect (thi... BY: Yawar Baig Marital bliss is the dream of every engaged girl and the goal of every wife. It is a dream and goal which is worthy of us exerting our utmost effort to attain. To reap the fruits of these efforts, we should be aware of the mistakes and enemies which threaten t... BY: Unknown As women, we desire to have a deep emotional bond with our spouse. We want to be loved and adored.
We need to nourish our spouse daily with love, support and understanding.As a therapist, I have seen numerous men who are disappointed in their marriages.
Men'... BY: Haleh Banani As a friend of mine was setting off on a journey, she took all the necessary safety measures for her apartment. She installed secure locks as well as iron windows and then traveled to a summer resort along with her family, feeling reassured. However, when she ... BY: Unknown I used to think I had my stuff together. Then I got married.
Marriage is great—but it rocked everything I knew. I quickly realized my basic goal in life, prior to getting married, was to simply remain undisturbed.
This "disruption" came suddenly and was disg... BY: Unknown THE more I read and talk to people, the more I think we are in love with love. Now don't get me wrong – love is nice. Love is beautiful. Love is sweet.
And I love a cute love story just as much as other people. Girl wants to marry guy but he's not interested.... BY: Andrea Umm Abdullah I MAY not know you. I may not know your name, where you come from, or where you live. But I know what you're going through.
I've been there. I know you just want to be happy. You just want your marriage, your husband, your home life to be...better. Happier. E... BY: Andrea Umm Abdullah and Umm Zahrah Imagine a store that sells husbands actually existing, where a woman may go to choose a husband. Among the instructions at the entrance is a description of how the store operates. You may visit the store ONLY ONCE!
There are six floors and the attributes of t... BY: Unknown Alhamdulillah at the end of last month I have been married for 10 years. When I try to imagine a woman who has been married for 10 years, I think of someone matronly and responsible, someone serious and sensible. But in reality, although my responsibilities ha... BY: Umm Salihah - Allâh Almighty says: {Therefore the righteous women are devoutly obedient (to Allâh and to their husbands), and guard in the husband's absence what Allâh orders them to guard (e.g. their chastity, their husband's property, etc.).} [An-Nisa`4: 34]
- It was n... BY: Tasjeelaat Al-Ansaar Al-Islaamiyyah As soon as I wrote that down I thought of those 60’s style magazine article’s that used to tell people to have the house perfect, look perfect and have the perfect martini ready in hand. But that’s not quite what I have in mind.
Alhamdulillah, my husband has ... BY: Umm Salihah Allah Swt, in his infinite wisdom and mercy, created the bonds of marriage as a permissible, enjoyable means of uniting two strangers to live with each other in love and peace. Theoretically this exists, but sadly the reality is that it isn’t always maintained... BY: Miriam Islam Life with our spouse is a voyage and can be eternally blissful depending on our attitude to each other. We sometimes have a dispute or encounter a "small" problem in our marriage and easily forget the thousands of pleasurable and blissful moments before that e... BY: Abu Muhammad Yusuf We are all searching for happiness. In achieving this happiness our attitude in life plays a crucial role.
After years of hard and dedicated service to his Company, Ahmed was being appointed at an elegant reception as the new Director. It was a small function... BY: Abu Muhammad Yusuf You've moved past that giddy "honeymoon phase" and settled into a comfortable lifestyle with your spouse. You revel in each other's company and companionship but....dare we say it, life is getting a little, uh, boring.
It’s a problem researchers at Stony Broo... BY: Samana Siddiqui Faith: The most basic and essential attribute of a Muslim marriage is the common faith that binds the couple. Since Islaam is a way of life and not just a religion confined to weekly worship it becomes an integral part of a Muslim's life. The frame of ref... BY: Shahina Siddiqui Although many Muslims may right now be in failing marriages and on a fast track to divorce and its terrible consequences, there are many ways to put their marriage back on the right track if the husband and wife are sincere in their desire to reconcile. The fo... BY: Ibrahim Bowers Marriages usually start off so nicely. Everyone cooperates-the couple, their parents, other relatives, friends. Things usually run smoothly.
But somewhere along the way, marital disputes pop up. This is of course natural, but these can escalate to dangerous l... BY: Shahina Siddiqui More Muslim marriages in North America are breaking up in their first year than ever before, according to Shahina Siddiqui, executive director of the Islamic Social Services Association of the United States and Canada (ISSA).
The first five to seven years are... BY: Unknown In Surah An-Nahl (Sura 16) in the Qur’an, Allah Almighty says, “And Allah has made for you in your homes an abode.”
What does the home represent to the Muslim family? Is it a place where family members can relate to one another and where they can sincerely en... BY: Sahar Kassaimah 1) The Patient:
The woman who remains patient in all circumstances, and tries to never whine, moan, nag or complain. When some trouble or affliction hits her, she turns to Allah Almighty for help.
2) The Protector:
The woman who protects her husband’s wealt... BY: Unknown One day a sister dropped by to pick up something and saw me dressed up with make-up and jewelry, so she assumed I was going somewhere. When I told her I wasn’t, the reason I dressed up surprised her. I told her, “Because it is about time for my husband to retu... BY: Umm Reem Sometimes we don't even know where to begin to repair broken bridges in our marriages. Giving thanks is a very good place to start. Send a card, note, or e-mail message to your husband quoting the hadith that the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon ... BY: Sister Mai Marriages usually start off so nicely. Everyone cooperates - the couple, their parents, other relatives, friends. Things usually run smoothly.But somewhere along the way, marital disputes pop up. This is of course natural, but these can escalate to dangerous l... BY: Unknown Shaykh Munajjid provides some excellent advice for a sister in such a situation:
‘…There is no true alternative except to turn to Allah. For, He is the One Who makes a way out of every difficult situation.
The following are a few points of advice:
• Your hu... BY: Sheikh Muhammed Salih Al-Munajjid 1. Start by choosing the right spouse (Qur'aan, Surah Nur: 34)
2. Efforts must be exerted to correct any defects in a spouse once married. Develop the family spiritually. Remember Allah often. (Qur'aan, Surah Nur: 87)
3. Inculcate Imaan (faith) in the childr... BY: Unknown When I got home that night as my wife served dinner, I held her hand and said, "I've got something to tell you." She sat down and ate quietly. Again I observed the hurt in her eyes.
Suddenly I didn't know how to open my mouth. But I had to let her know ... BY: Ramon E Mendoza How many men and women prepare themselves to live as a couple, as a family?
Some think about it, others are already committed to it. We hear of stories... and one is sometimes moved by the expectations and hopes of some, and sometimes saddened by the painful ... BY: Unknown Islaam gave us detailed instructions that identify rights, responsibilities and characters of both husband and wife to build their relationship on mutual love, respect, and mercy. The following are the most important tips that lead to a successful and happy ma... BY: Unknown Before we continue let’s first sincerely ponder over the following hadeeth (Prophetic Narration):
Jabir reported that Allaah's Messenger (sallAllaahu alayhi wa sallam) said,
"Iblees places his throne upon water; he then sends detachments (for creating dissen... BY: Unknown Islaam is a very strong advocate of marriage. We view marriage as the foundation of society, family, and life. This is because through marriage families are established and the family is the fundamental unit of our society. In the Qur’aan and Sunnah, marriage ... BY: Riad Ouarzazi The Muslim woman makes herself beautiful for her husband by means of make-up, clothing, etc. In this way she will appear more beautiful and attractive to him, and make her husband, Allah willing, love her more. This was the practice of the righteous women of t... BY: Unknown Some of the most significant messages people deliver to one another often come in just three words. When spoken or conveyed, those statements have the power to forge new friendships, deepen old ones and restore relationships that have cooled. The following thr... BY: Emma Shuaidi The beloved Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said, "The whole world is a provision, and the best object of provision in this world is the pious woman."
In Islaam, the wife plays a pivotal role in married life and her role necessitates that s... BY: Unknown In Islaam, marriage is a blessed contract between a man and a woman, in which each becomes permitted to the other, and they begin the long journey of life in a spirit of love, co-operation, harmony and tolerance, where each feels at ease with the other, and fi... BY: Unknown It is obligatory on you O Muslim woman to obey your husband in matters of good. Aboo Hurayrah reported that Allaah’s Messenger (sallallaahu alayhi wa sallam) said, “If a woman prays her five (daily) prayers and keeps her private parts chaste and obeys her husb... BY: Unknown This discussion of the intellectual, psychological and other qualities of the smart Muslim wife demonstrates that she is a successful wife, if not the most successful wife and the greatest blessing and good fortune that a man may enjoy.
By virtue of her under... BY: Unknown Wondering what’s happened to the romance since you became parents? It needn’t be that way! With a little effort, your relationship can be stronger and more meaningful than ever before. After all, your children are the fruits of your love and commitment to each... BY: Fatima Barkatullah 'Aa'ishah (radi Allaahu 'anha) narrated that the Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) said,
"Eleven women sat (at a place) and promised and contracted that they would not conceal anything of the news of their husbands.
The first one said,
"My husband is l... BY: Unknown One of the ways in which a woman may endear herself to her husband is by sharing his joys and sorrows. So she joins him in some of his pastimes, and his daily work, such as reading, exercise, and attending useful talks and gatherings, and so on, so that her hu... BY: Unknown The following article is a transcribed interview conducted with Umm ‘Abdullah, the wife of Shaykh ibn 'Uthaymeen. It’s a great question and answer session because you get an inside look into everyday greatness. Inshaa’Allah, we can benefit from the Shaykh’s ex... BY: Sister Maha ash-Shammar The young and excited bride-and-groom-to-be were ecstatic about the upcoming wedding and the joy the marriage was going to bring. Three to six months later, reality has set in and both spouses realize that marriage is no easy task, but one that takes a great d... BY: Unknown An important characteristic of the intelligent Muslim woman is that she does not describe any of her female friends or acquaintances to her husband, because this is forbidden according to the words of the Prophet (peace be upon him),
“No woman should talk abo... BY: Unknown 1. Beautiful Reception
After returning from work, school, travel, or whatever has separated you, begin with a good greeting.
Meet him with a cheerful face.
Beautify and perfume yourself.
Start with good news and delay any bad news until he has rested.
R... BY: Shaykh Muhammad Hamid One of the most rewarding things in this life is a happy marriage. Achieving the right marital balance takes a lot of hard work and commitment from both the husband and wife. As a Muslim wife, you can reap innumerable benefits by actively cultivating bliss in ... BY: Sumayyah Meehan One of the qualities of the good Muslim wife is that she helps her husband to obey Allah (subhaanahu wa ta’aalaa) in different ways, especially in waking him up to pray at night (qiyaam al-layl). By doing this, she does him an immense favor, because she remind... BY: Unknown Marital love in Islaam inculcates the following:
Faith: The love Muslim spouses have for each other is for the sake of Allah (the Mighty) in order to gain His pleasure. It is from Allah (the Beneficent) that we claim our mutual rights (Quran 4:1) and it is to... BY: Shahina Siddiqui The true Muslim woman should support her husband in his deen (religion) by encouraging him to spend and give charity for the sake of Allah (subhaanahu wa ta’aalaa), and not to waste money in extravagance and ostentatious purchases, as we see so many ignorant a... BY: Unknown Allah (subhanhu wa ta'aalaa) says, "O you who believe! Avoid much suspicion; indeed some suspicions are sins…" (Qur'aan [49]: 12)
It is easy to forget how our actions and manners can have a tremendous impact on our spouses and loved ones, and also how many ti... BY: Unknown The Muslim woman does not only make herself beautiful for her husband and share his work and pastimes, but she also tries to create an atmosphere of peace and tranquillity in the home. This she does by trying to keep a clean and tidy home, in which he will see... BY: Unknown The Muslim woman is tolerant and forgiving, overlooking any errors on the part of her husband. She does not bear a grudge against him for such errors or remind him about them every so often.
There is no quality that will endear her to her husband like the qua... BY: Unknown In the West women dress with looks to kill outside the home and save the sweats and t-shirts for inside. Most women will look very beautiful while going outside of the house, but look like a slob inside the house. One of them spends at least an hour taking a ... BY: Unknown One of the ways in which the Muslim woman makes herself attractive to her husband is by being happy, cheerful, friendly and gentle, thus flooding her husband’s life with joy. When he comes home exhausted from his work, she greets him with a smiling face and ki... BY: Unknown Although this article was written primarly for brothers, it also serves as a good reminder for sisters as to what a good Muslim wife should be like.
When I started looking for a wife, my only intention was to find a Muslim woman who could help me become a bet... BY: Brother Iftikhar The true Muslim woman avoids looking at men other than her husband; she does not stare at men who are not related to her (i.e. who are not her mahrams), in obedience to the command of Allah (subhaanahu wa ta’aalaa),
“And say to the believing women that they s... BY: Unknown One of the laws that Allah (subhaanahu wa ta’aalaa) has decreed for this life is that men and women should work together to cultivate and populate the earth and run the affairs of life therein. Man cannot do without woman, and vice versa. Hence the laws of Isl... BY: Unknown The clever and sensitive Muslim woman does not forget that one of the greatest deeds she can do in life, after worshipping Allah (subhaanahu wa ta’aalaa), is to be successful in endearing herself to her husband and filling his heart with joy, so that he will f... BY: Unknown The chaste Muslim woman does not disclose her husband’s secrets, and does not talk to anyone about whatever secrets and other matters which may be between him and her. The serious Muslim woman is above that; she would never sink to the level of such cheap and ... BY: Unknown Among the most prominent characteristics of the Muslim woman is her strength of character, mature way of thinking, and serious conduct. These are qualities which the Muslim woman possesses both before and after marriage, because they are the result of her unde... BY: Unknown 10. Use your 'Fitnah' to win the heart of your husband. All women have the ornaments that Allah blessed them with. Use the beauty Allah ('azza wa jall) has bestowed you with to win the heart of your husband.
{jb_greydisc}9.{/jb_grey... BY: Muhammad Al-Shareef Restoring & Maintaining Intimacy in Marriage
Marriage: How to Keep it off the Rocks
Revealing Secrets, the Primary Adversary in Marital Life
Win His Heart: A Psychological and Islamic Approach for Women
How to Steal Your Husband's Heart
Things I Wish I Knew Before We Got Married
Are We in Love with Love?
Letter to the Unfulfilled Wife
Being Content In Marriage
Lessons from 10 Years of Marriage
How to be a Good Wife?
Taking Care of Your Husband
Disrespecting Husband
Appreciate Your Partner!
Does Your Husband Make You Happy?
Conquering "Marriage Boredom": 10 Tips to Spice Up Your Marriage
Fundamentals of a Happy Marriage
Tips for a Better Husband and Wife Relationship
Tips for Muslim Couples Dealing with Marital Disputes
The First Seven Years: A Marriage Survival Guide
Muslim Homes: Islamic Family Values In An Anti-Family Society
Seven Beautiful Characteristics Which Make A Wife Exceptional
Is Piety the only Beauty?
The Road to Healing Rifts, inshaa'Allah
11 Tips for Muslim Women Facing Marital Disputes
Dealing with a Husband’s Short-Temper and Mistreatment
Habits for Success in Your Family
Making Your Marriage Work, Even Against All Odds
Half of your Faith
Islamic Tips to Help Restore and Maintain Intimacy in Marriage
How to be a Successful Wife
Mars vs. Venus
Beautify Yourself for Your Husband
The Power of Words
The Role of a Wife in Islaam
The Strongest of Bonds
Serving the Husband
One of the Most Successful Wives
That Lovin' Feeling
Be Like Umm Zar': Speak Well of your Husband!
Sharing Worries
An Interview with Shaykh Ibn 'Uthaymeen’s Wife
Increase Happiness in Your Marriage
Never Describe Other Women to Your Husband
How to Make Your Husband Happy
Finding Bliss in Your Marriage
Help Your Husband Pray at Night
Have You Forgotten the Purpose Behind Marriage?
Encourage Your Husband to Spend in the Way of Allah
Dealing with the Critical Husband
Create an Atmosphere of Peace and Tranquillity for Him
Be a Tolerant and Forgiving Wife
Beauty Queens Outside and Slobs Inside?
Are you Cheerful when you meet your Husband?
An Example of a Pious Wife
A Muslimah’s Eyes Are Only for Her Husband
A Muslimah Stands by her Husband and Offers Her Advice
A Muslimah Fills her Husband's Heart with Joy
A Muslim Woman Keeps Her Husbands Secrets
A Muslim Wife Must be Strong and Wise
10 Tips on How to be a Successful Wife
