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An Example of a Pious Wife

By Brother Iftikhar .

shineflowerAlthough this article was written primarly for brothers, it also serves as a good reminder for sisters as to what a good Muslim wife should be like.

When I started looking for a wife, my only intention was to find a Muslim woman who could help me become a better Muslim. After praying to Allah (the Mighty) many times, I came to know of a Muslim brother in my area who had an unwed sister. I was told that she was seven years older than I was, had no college education, and had minor health problems. Despite this, I arranged for a meeting to discuss the possibility of marriage.

When I met her, I was impressed by her modesty (she wore a real hijab that covered everything but her face). She was not attractive, nor was she rich. However, at the conclusion of our meeting, I felt comfortable with the fact that she was what I was looking for. After praying Istikhaarah, I felt confident that she was right for me. Our Nikaah (marriage) was performed only a few weeks later.

Oh yeah, this was a Muslim wedding - the kind where the men sit separate from the women; we didn't have disco music or belly dancers or any other kind of un-Islamic stuff. There might have been one brother who was NOT wearing Sunnah. We spent most of the time praying, praising Allah, discussing what a great blessing the responsibility of marriage was, etc. I think the total cost of the wedding might have been around US $20.00 (we held it in my brother-in-law's apartment). I had the time of my life!!!

Despite the fact that she is very stubborn and argumentative, she is one of the best Muslim women a man could ask for. And I am NOT talking about the way she wakes me up in the middle of the night for tahajjud, the way she covers her face in public, the way she investigates every action that I do, the way she will stop talking to me if I don't read the Qur'aan or go to the Masjid every day. I am speaking about her fear of Allah and love for the Prophet Muhammed (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him).

Not bad for a woman some people called ugly, who has no college education or money.

I wouldn't trade this woman for anything in the world.

Many times when the discussion of marriage arises, I will hear one brother after another discussing how beautiful and educated they want their dream wives to be. Others will talk of love or family racial pride.

Fools... (with all due respect).

In case some of you are confused as to why I am mentioning all of this, let me tell you what I know and came to realise (straight up)...

A PIOUS WIFE IS YOUR STRONGEST DEFENSE AGAINST SHAYTAAN

 

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